Where are you heading?
You could drive the greatest car, filled with the most potent fuel, at maximum speed on a road without any hindrances. Yet, if you are facing the wrong direction, none of it will matter – you will not reach your target destination. On the journey of life, as on any other one, it is important to know where you are going and then to find a map to help you get there. This is necessary if you do not want to be living by default, simply driving around aimlessly – but rather by design, driving towards a destination. Still, even if you have the end in mind, other essentials need to be in place for you to reach your goal.
First, find your bearings!
If you do not know your current position, it will be almost impossible to figure out how to get from where you are to where you want to go. It is necessary for you to locate yourself in life. If you are well orientated – even if it entails realising that you are situated on a bad spot – you can re-calculate your route to ensure you are on the best road and making steady progress towards your endpoint.
We need to think about where we are located in terms of career, family, health and fitness, spirituality, social life, finances and other aspects of life.
What are your current “GPS coordinates”? Are you satisfied with your position?
Once you have become mindful of the above, you can determine how you need to adjust your direction in order to be heading towards your desired goalposts.
Next, enforce your boundaries!
Brené Brown defines boundaries as “What’s ok, what’s not ok”.
One of the greatest hindrances to reaching your destination is lack of clear, healthy boundaries. Your boundaries determine what you do and do not allow in your life.
If you work for yourself, you are in special need of strong perimeters and the self-discipline to uphold them. Otherwise, before you know it, work would have infiltrated every other area of your life. The same goes for working under management or in a team – know your priorities and your limits and be firm about not relenting, provided you are playing it fair by your colleagues and boss.
Women especially are prone to get caught up in confluence with their families, forgetting where they end and the others begin. Although devotion and care towards your family are worthy and utterly important causes, you still have to keep yourself intact.
Everybody needs friends and fun – some of us more than others! While this is one of life’s greatest gifts, we also need to know when to say “no” and of which relationships to let go when they have expired or have become poisonous. We need a healthy balance between work and play; alone time, family time and social time.
Health and Fitness
On the one hand, we should have our priorities straight in terms of diet, exercise and other health habits. It is sometimes essential to make certain non-negotiable lifestyle choices. On the other hand, we should not let these practices drive our lives. Sometimes you need to not go for that run or need to indeed have that piece of cake for the sake of other important things in life. Know when to push through, even if it hurts, and when to give in, even if it messes with a perfect plan.
Invest in destiny!
Bearings and Boundaries are two of the 8 ‘Bs’ discussed in my B-Plan Workshop. For more information, visit my website and subscribe to my events page on Facebook to receive notifications about my next scheduled workshops.