Humans are creatures of habit and by nature most of us resist change. We so often get stuck in a comfortable place and even if it gets a bit unpleasant in this spot, we are unlikely to adjust our position when we perceive the process of alteration as more painful than the status quo. And unfortunately, this is mostly how we think.
Why is this? To be frank – many of us are actually just lazy! And then there is the fear of the unknown… Change can seem so daunting!
So, if you are feeling a bit uneasy in your present position (this may be with regards to anything: lifestyle, work, relationships, spiritual life, etc.), how should you approach that dreaded thought of… come on – let’s say it aloud:
Once upon a time
When you think about the areas in your life you are unsatisfied with, it can be overwhelming to imagine that you need a whole batch of changes. Some of us come to a place where we are so desperate for a new beginning that we are willing to do a full life makeover, but for most of us, tackling problem areas one at a time is a much better approach. So make your list, in order of priority, and take on the challenges one by one.
The key to lasting transformation often lies in pacing yourself. A drastic overturn may be too stressful for yourself and your family to cope with and it will probably only lead to failure and conflict. Thus, after you have identified the area that needs modification (say time management), take it step by step. For example: Begin to cut out time wasted on social media; then get up earlier to have more productive time in the morning; then resign from unnecessary commitments; etc. – first establish one habit and then move on to the next one.
Also, we tend to lose perspective – sometimes a small change is all that is needed in the end. There is no need to pull a tooth if it only needs a filling! In the example above – maybe committing only to go on Facebook once a day for ten minutes is all it takes to solve your time constraint problems and you may not even need to take further steps.
We so often despise small beginnings. We want everything fixed quickly, painlessly and all at once. To mend this fast-paced mind-set, heed to the wise words in the book of Zechariah: “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin”. The important part is that you begin the work!
Think of a small baby at the start of life: it is as incompetent and unachieved as humanly possible, yet we coo over it and treat it with utter gentleness, because we have respect for its potential and understanding for its humble beginnings. Approach your project of change in the same way – your small adjustment may seem insignificant and rather useless, but it will most probably grow to become a blessing.
Move with momentum
When we embrace life alterations and start reaping fruit from our efforts to improve our situation, we build some muscle for change and it becomes easier and less scary – I daresay even desirable! Contrariwise, if we allow ourselves to stagnate, the process of transformation will be more painful and less likely to happen at all. Therefore, make sure that you are always progressing. A great way to do this is to have people in your life who can challenge you when you get stuck and who will inspire you to move forward.
Yes, change is not always pleasant or stress-free, but we need to keep our goals in mind. If you are heading to a destination that lies north and your compass is just a few degrees out, you will never reach it – in fact, you will only stray further and further off course as you move along. Luckily, a small recalibration can fix your problem and make all the difference between reaching your desired endpoint or not. So, make that small correction!
If you know you need to make some life changes, but you feel that you might need assistance with this intimidating process, life coaching sessions could be greatly beneficial to you. It may just be the first step to massive breakthrough.